When You Don't Hit Your Goals

When You Don't Hit Your Goals

How do you handle your self-talk when you don't hit your goals?

This is a powerful question because it can make all the difference in how you move forward. 

Our natural tendency is either "not caring" at all (which is avoiding) or shaming ourselves and kicking ourselves when we are down.

We like to think that these two options happen to us.

But they are both choices.

They are decisions. 

They are probably familiar reactions to not hitting your goals.  

Just notice that.  

Both of these reactions will recreate your past.  

In order to create the future you want, you will want to choose a different response. 

Here is an exercise that will help.  

I would like you to create a list of characteristics that you noticed when you have felt you were at the BEST version of you.  

It could be from when you were 8 years old, or 13, or last week.   

It may include characteristics like courageous, confident, unstoppable, loving, valuable, joyful...

These are God-given attributes we often overlook. They are still within.  What is hidden from view is no less true.  

This is the ALSO list.  

I would like you to practice reading this list out loud every morning. Really let it sink in. 

Then.....

When you are tempted to beat yourself up for not meeting your goal.  You might hear yourself say something like, "You are such a disappointment." Practice asking yourself, "Is that the only thing that is true?"  "I am also courageous, confident, unstoppable, loving, valuable, joyful..."

Humans tend to think that shaming ourselves will fix us. 

I've found that loving myself fixes way more.

But it starts with seeing that it is a CHOICE. 

The result will be more productive than a shame spiral down. 

The result will become an intentional spiral upward.

It must be done intentionally.  

I help my clients put this into practice in many helpful ways.  They are surprised at how their results change when they begin CHOOSING the way they think about themselves and speak to themselves.  

You can begin creating those results, too.  CLICK HERE to schedule your free strategy session with me and we can begin.  

You can get the results you long for with your health and well-being AND you can get those results for good!  

It all begins with thinking in ways that will move you in the direction of your future.  

I am your dream advocate,

Peggy